Week #4 – How do you want to be remembered?

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I have to admit, I’ve never really considered how I’d like to be remembered. Obviously, I’d like to be remembered in a positive way but if someone is remembering me and not currently knowing me then I probably don’t see them, or I’m dead… so all in all how I’m remembered doesn’t really affect me directly.

That being said, this topic made me remember a heated discussion I had one night with my Dad when I was around 15. My Dad was a mean drunk and would often say things just for a reaction. On this particular occasion he said to me “you’re never going to be anything and no one will ever love you” which probably isn’t the nicest thing to say to your 15 year old daughter. Even though I knew it was the alcohol talking it still hurt and I still cried and told him that it was one of my biggest fears that I’d never be outstanding and end up being ordinary. It was something I cared about immensely (as I’m sure most teenagers do) at the time.

During that time though I wanted to be famous for something, anything really. I just wanted to leave my mark on the world in a big, well known, way.

Thinking back to that now I wonder if I was crazy because I can’t really think of anything worse. I don’t want to have to watch what I say or do or have stalkers and photographers watching my every move. I’m sort of OK with just being ordinary.

I suppose, if I really think about it, I don’t want people to remember me for something specific. I’d just like to be remembered as someone they wanted to be around and spend time with. I guess just as someone worth remembering.

6 comments

  1. Silver says:

    I like that and agree with you. ๐Ÿ™‚ I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this. I find it hard to answer this question when I scarcely know myself on some days. But we hoped to be remembered in the hearts of the people who matter to us.

  2. Stephanie says:

    There are lots of people who are famous in their particular fields, but not famous to the general public. Luckily, they don’t need bodyguards.

    I can tell that you’ve definitely matured since you were 15, and it looks like you’ll do great! Shame on your dad for saying that, especially since anyone can be outstanding in their own way.

  3. Terri says:

    I second what Stephanie said – anyone can be outstanding in their own way, and whilst you might not be remembered on a Gandhi-scale, you’ll be remembered by your loved ones as someone unique, individual, strong and worth remembering ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Diane says:

    I used to be scared about being “average” for the rest of my life, too. I compared myself to several people who seemed to be more successful and better than me, which made my self-esteem worse. I don’t care about that anymore, but most of the time, I’m still not sure about the good qualities I own.

    I’d rather be remembered as that person who’s fun to hang around with and makes people laugh. ๐Ÿ˜€

  5. Kelly says:

    I always thought of you as a girl who is really strong and is focused on what she wants out of life. And that’s just from reading your blog for the past few years lol! ๐Ÿ™‚

    I guess I would want to be remembered for being someone that my loved ones could always count on.

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