Week #7 – What are 5 experiences you would like to have?

So I missed a few weeks – and I’m also behind a week with this post – because I couldn’t decide on an answer for their questions:

Week #5 – What motivated you today?
Week #6 – There’s a movie about your life. Who is the cast, who is the director, and what is the setting? What’s it about? Is there a moral to the story?

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Also, this week wasn’t overly easy either. Liza really knows how to come up with some difficult questions.

I’m guessing most people probably wouldn’t have much difficulty in listing 5 experiences they’d like but, I’m not most people. I don’t have many (or any) goals and I have no idea what I want from one minute to the next so listing experiences I’d like to do, at some point in the future, is sort of hard for me.

I read a few of the other challengers posts though and started thinking a bit smaller than I was and here is what I came up with:

1. Make and cook a homemade lasagne
One night a week or so ago, I was discussing this blog topic with Jarrod and said “I wouldn’t mind making a lasagne one day” and so it became part of the list. I’ve wanted to make lasagne for so many years, my Dad used to make it fairly regularly and it was so amazing and now it’s at the point that I can’t even remember the last time I ate a lasagne let alone an awesome home made one. So I’m going to test this out one day. When I get less scared of crunchy, overcooked lasagne noodles.

2. Do a Chocolate Making class
I first thought of this when I saw that Lindsay and Edmund’s have beginner and intermediate chocolate making classes. I think it would be awesome to see the process and be able to take home some chocolate that I’d made myself. Then I saw that Lindt also have chocolate making classes and I decided it was something I should plan on doing. I’ll probably start with Lindsay and Edmunds first though because a) its cheaper and b) it’s closer to home.

3. Being proud of myself for something I’ve achieved
I don’t know how I would even begin to accomplish this. I don’t remember the last time where I did something that I thought was really awesome and was incredibly proud of myself for doing it. As this post sort of shows, I don’t really go through life thinking of it as an assortment of goals and experiences that need to be completed so don’t know what I could be proud of myself for accomplishing.

4. Have a job I actually like going too
This is a tricky one for me. Even now, I don’t know what I want to do for a job and I’m not overly inclined to learn new skills until I work that out. All I know is that my current job isn’t for me and maybe management isn’t either. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently and completed a few ‘career tests’, the strange thing about these tests is most of them suggest Primary School Teacher in my top 5. Considering I’m not too big on training and really can’t stand kids I am wondering what it is that makes this a top recommendation. One day I hope I can wake up on a Monday morning and be interested in what I’ll do at work for the week rather than thinking about the next 5 days stretching out endlessly in front of me.

5. Own a house
This one is probably a little way off down in the future but it would be great to one day buy and own my own place. With the way renting is here there is very little opportunity to make a place yours. I’d like to be able to think “I want to put something on this wall!” and just do it without having to ask permission. Or replace the carpet or have a better kitchen and know it’s up to me how my place will be. Also just knowing that my money is going towards owning my own place rather than helping someone else pay off theirs.

That was quite hard to come up with, I’ve been thinking about it for more than a week. Now the interesting thing will be seeing if I’m able to follow through with any of them.

Reviewed: Sisterhood Everlasting

Sisterhood EverlastingSisterhood Everlasting by Ann Brashares
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

I’m not sure what to say about this book, I’m not even sure I liked it. I found out a few months ago that a fifth Travelling Pants book had been released and as I had bought the other four over the years that I should know how it ends.

Flash forward ten years and the girls aren’t quite the sisterhood they used to be. Although, I don’t think their characters really did much growing up in those 10 years, mostly just growing apart. Especially Lena, Kostos seemed like a man in his 30s and Lena still seemed like a lost teenaged girl, pining for the boy she loved and lost all those years before. Although, maybe that is what Brashares was going for, that Lena just locked herself away from life. The theme is sort of shoved down your throat throughout the book, and oh.. Bee is broken. Which, if you’ve read the previous books, you’d know anyway.

I read the 4 books leading up to this in about 3 weeks and I’m glad I did, while this book could easily stand up on it’s own it was good to re-visit the characters again and see them for their achievements and also their flaws. Unfortunately, as mentioned above, they didn’t seem to do much changing and a whole lot of staying the same, except Carmen… although she didn’t seem to learn much of anything along the way.

It was good seeing that they hadn’t turned out incredibly successful, ecstatically happy with life and still together and everything was fabulous, I was sort of expecting that something a bit like Now and Then but, thankfully, that didn’t happen. It was good to see some sort of realism in the book, even if part of me wanted them to be incredibly successful and ecstatically happy.

Overall, it was a good read and a nice, if surprising and sometimes sad, way of ending their stories.

Week #4 – How do you want to be remembered?

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I have to admit, I’ve never really considered how I’d like to be remembered. Obviously, I’d like to be remembered in a positive way but if someone is remembering me and not currently knowing me then I probably don’t see them, or I’m dead… so all in all how I’m remembered doesn’t really affect me directly.

That being said, this topic made me remember a heated discussion I had one night with my Dad when I was around 15. My Dad was a mean drunk and would often say things just for a reaction. On this particular occasion he said to me “you’re never going to be anything and no one will ever love you” which probably isn’t the nicest thing to say to your 15 year old daughter. Even though I knew it was the alcohol talking it still hurt and I still cried and told him that it was one of my biggest fears that I’d never be outstanding and end up being ordinary. It was something I cared about immensely (as I’m sure most teenagers do) at the time.

During that time though I wanted to be famous for something, anything really. I just wanted to leave my mark on the world in a big, well known, way.

Thinking back to that now I wonder if I was crazy because I can’t really think of anything worse. I don’t want to have to watch what I say or do or have stalkers and photographers watching my every move. I’m sort of OK with just being ordinary.

I suppose, if I really think about it, I don’t want people to remember me for something specific. I’d just like to be remembered as someone they wanted to be around and spend time with. I guess just as someone worth remembering.

Week #3 – What gift would you give a person you don’t like?

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I’ve been attempting to write this all week but what do you get for someone you don’t like? Why would you spend time, thinking of a gift for someone you don’t want to spend any time with?

That being said, a gift doesn’t always have to be a good thing, you’re not going to like everything you receive so I figured I’d give them a lump of coal to match the darkness of their soul! Muahahahahaha! Yes, I assume someone I don’t like would have a dark soul. It’s not very realistic that I’m going to give someone some coal though, even if it could be hilarious.

I think, the thing I’d give someone I don’t like would be less tangible. As I mentioned above I could give them some of my time or forgiveness or a second chance, depending on the circumstances. While those all sound great, I’m not a big forgiver as I tend to hold a grudge, for a long time and only a few people earn a second chance and well, let’s face it, I’m not going to give someone I don’t like any of my time.

The conclusion I came to is that I’d probably give someone I didn’t like some tolerance and understanding because, ultimately, everyone has reasons for being who they are and acting the way they do. Just because I don’t like something about a person doesn’t mean I can’t at least be tolerant of their choices and understand that there is probably more going on behind the scenes than I’ll ever know.

A better, brighter you

My last post mentioned a book that started it all. I received a few comments from people interested to know more about it. The book was You inc. which claims to help you “attract amazing success into your life and business”  which I imagine every other self help book claims as well. Initially I was pretty reluctant to read it, I would never have read it if my boss (at the time) hadn’t suggested it or you know, bought it for me to read. He was investing time in me and the least I could do was invest some time in improving myself right? Right!

The book itself is separated into 4 parts: You+, You+Business, You+Leadership and You+Sales, I have to admit that I didn’t finish the Sales section or enjoy the Business section. That is  just me though, maybe you have aspirations of building your own business and selling the idea to anyone that will listen and it will give you that big idea. The part for me that was most useful was the “You+” section, eventually anyway. As I mentioned, I was reluctant to read it and wasn’t willing to put to much of myself into it until it came to a question, THE question as I think of it, the question that changed everything:

Are you living in the place where you belong, with the people you love, doing the right work, on purpose?

I thought about it and the answer scared me. I didn’t feel like where I was living was home, I wasn’t sure about the person I was with but I did enjoy my work. I hadn’t purposely chosen to be there though, I had sort of fallen into everything that had happened to me never really pushing myself to do anything. Which was pretty much the story of my life.

It is a pretty big day when you realise you’re not really living your life and making all your decisions from fear and mostly, that one line in a book can make you open your eyes and decide it’s time to change it all.

So that is what this book did for me, it made me think about what I wanted and what I didn’t have but it did it actually make me change anything? No it didn’t, I needed a bigger push for that but it did open my mind to a new way of thinking. That being said, I imagine if I never took the time to read it I would  probably still be where I was 12 months ago feeling helpless about what to do about anything and everything.

I’d recommend giving it a try though if you’re looking for a little, or maybe a big push into the right direction to making life better for yourself.